My boyfriend lasts an hour or more when we have sex, after he cums probably an hour later I start cramping. Like I can’t walk ! What does that mean? What can I do to prevent that? I’m flexible enough to do ridiculous positions with him, I don’t understand why my muscles are cramping! :(
See a doctor about it, or it might just be because you are doing to much. Take a break if you can in between. Or take some medicine for muscle cramps before having sex.
-JaneDoe
My girlfriend just got on the pill from PP. I wanna cum inside her but I’m scared it might get her pregnant. She’s responsible enough to take it everyday and at the same time, she wants me to cum inside her but I’m still too scared to. I know she is too, but she says to do it because she wants me to be happy and have it feel good. I’m sure it does, but what do I do!?
The pill isn’t always a 100% protective. I know you want to feel better and I know it feels a lot better, but if you aren’t willing to take the chance of maybe having a baby use a condom. Having a baby is a big thing, and that’s taking a chance.
-JaneDoe
can you give tips on how to manage time well? thanks by philipjaramillo
You need to set goals and write down your priorities. Set a date for each goal so that you will have a clear idea of what and when something needs to be accomplished. Have a to-do list. List everything in order of importance. What need to get done now? What can wait? You need to make daily list of things that must be accomplish in that day. You also need to have weekly and monthly to-do lists. Set a block of time for some specific tasks each day. Determine how long will you work on each task and how long will you take a break. An example would be: a 45 minutes work time and a ten minutes break after that. It is crucial that you stick to the timetable. It might be difficult in the beginning, but after a while it will get better. Identify which task is more important to achieving your goal. Do the most important task first. Delegate tasks to someone else who has the time and the expertise. Do not become jack of all trades. Do things that you like and are good at. Get someone else to things you dislike, as long as it is within your budget. Keep everything organized. How often have you wasted your time finding something you need but could not find just because your desk was so disorganized? If there is a big project, slice it into chunks so that you will not be overwhelmed by the size of the project. Write down the pros and cons of why you should or should not do what is on the list. This will enable you to remove unnecessary task from your list. Don’t over commit. Learn to say *No*. Don’t procrastinate. Just do it. Deal effectively with interruptions. Schedule a time when you will only do the task you set out to do without being sidetrack by interruptions. Reward yourself when you accomplish the task you set out to do.
Sorry it’s just a list, but I hope that helps!
-JaneDoe
I used to find porn very degrading. But since watching it, I actually find some of it very sexy and a huge turn on. My bf doesn’t know about it all but I do it on a regular basis. And I never think about him when I am masturbating. It is somebody famous. Is that bad?
That isn’t bad at all. You have time for your boyfriend, and you also have time for yourself. Maybe the famous person just turns you on more. It’s nothing against him. You might be attracted to your boyfriend on a different level, and the famous person just on looks.
-JaneDoe
You should tell the last person that anal sex may cause your prostate to bleed or damage your rectum.
I told them that it might be dangerous! But there ya go for the anal sex question!
-JaneDoe
Hai again, sorry you don;t have to answer the “How do I flirt?” question, just my friend being an idiot! Oh, and thank you for finding my previus… previous question amusing… and sorry for this waste of perfectly good reading time T_T. by Sibbyy
Lol, are you sure you don’t want me to answer the other question?
-JaneDoe
so i have a facebook and this guy added me. hes really cute and he doesnt go to the same school but when we go to high school we will be going to the same school. anyways i really think he is cute and im not sure if i like him because i havent liked anyone in 3 years and i think about him a lot but not like being a stalker. i want to talk to him on facebook but im scared hell think of me as a weirdo. so i just wait until he mesages me and he doesnt…i wonder if he likes me he probably doesnt, i want to talk to him more but we hardly know each other. is there any way i could ask for his # online without being to crushyy on him.. haha i didnt know how to put that. help.. <3
First just start talking to him, on his posts maybe he has the same interests. Talk to him for a while online. After a little bit, ask him to text you sometime when you guys could go to a movie or something! Maybe you guys have been talking about a movie, ask him to do something that is within his interest. Being he doesn’t know you at this point, he most likely doesn’t like you. But if you keep waiting for him to message you, nothings going to happen. Take initiative and talk to him first.
<3
-JaneDoe
I feel like anal sex would be fun with someone you trust. They would have to use a lot of lubrication and they could tear something. I hear bleeding is common. I don’t know. I have never had it. I’m not going to be the one to suggest it I don’t think. But, it doesn’t kill. (Unless you get a lethal STD)
Well there ya go! Thankyou!
-JaneDoe
so, you think he likes me? (i’m the one with the confused guy who’s taking a ‘break’)
I couldn’t really tell you so much. He might just be doing it out of enjoyment or he might actually like you. You have to be up front and ASK him.
-JaneDoe
My friend cuts herself. And I’m really worried about her, I’ve tried talking to her about it but she just gets mad and walks away. She’s already seeing a therapist, but I don’t think that’s working for her. What should I do or tell her?
Talk to her parents about it. Make her realize that she is special and her cutting herself is hurting you too. You can’t do too much because she is already seeing a therapist, but you have to make sure that she knows that you care for her and that you will ALWAYS be there for her, through thick and through thin.
-JaneDoe
I miss him.
Tell him that. You telling me won’t change your situation with him. <3 You can’t force yourself to be happy, and you can’t make other people happy if you yourself aren’t. You really have to sit down with your parents and tell them that if they don’t understand where you are coming from you can keep cutting yourself. Go to the school help as well, get a therapist. GET HELP. It is out there, I promise someone is out there to help you. Dear whoever is reading this. Guess what? You are loved. No, don’t nod you head and say you’re not. You are. You are lovely and you are loved. End of story.
-JaneDoe
There is this boy let’s called him Jack, and he is known as a player. He was seeing one of my best friends called Katie, and they were seeing each other for 2 months. We all went out non a friday, and I noticed he wasn’t acting normal with her. And when I came online that night he told me he didn’t like her anymore and he then dumped her on the sunday. It was from there I started to like him and it became deeper and deeper. But then one of my other best friends called Lucy started fancying him too. She was obsessed, unlike me who kept it inside. And through the couple of days she’d flirt endlessly with me while I kept my feelings inside. Then on the Wednesday he confessed he had no feelings for Lucy but for me, then kissed me. And it’s been 2 weeks since that day and we kiss everyday and we act like girlfriend and boyfriend but we can’t because of Lucy and Katie. I feel guilty going behind my friends but I’m slowly falling in love with him. Neither of my friends knows about us two and we’re trying to keep it secret. Am I a bad friend? I don’t really know what to do, it might not seem like a problem but I feel it is :/
You have to talk to your friends about it. The truth is going to come out sooner or later and it’s better they hear it from you. After hearing their input in the situation, maybe they’ll understand that you have VERY strong feelings for him, but you respect their feelings too and if they really want you to stop, then let me tell you, stop. You’re friends are always going to be there, but boys, well they come and go. You’re friends are the people who will never let you down, and boys are opposite. I always say put friends before boys. “Chicks before dicks”
-JaneDoe
how can i persuade my mom to let me use eyeliner ive asked her multiple times and ive asked her nicely but she wont let me…i dont wnt to ssit her down or anything because shed proably be suspicious and get more mad i just need a way for her to understand that i want to use it…-nicole
You have to tell her that you’re growing up, and that if she wants to she can even show you and help you do it. If she still won’t allow you to use it, you can’t really persuade her in anyway and just respect it. She’ll change her mind soon enough.
-JaneDoe
As a child I had… difficulties, with my mum’s ex long term boyfriend. After seven years I told her what he’d been doing to me and she moved out straight away, which was really great and I adore my mther for believing me, i’m very lucky. Since then, I haven’t spoken abut it, the rest of my family bring it up in public when they’re drunk etc. but I shake it off; i’m strong. However, recently a boy in the year above me in college started speaking to me and I told him everything - only it turned out he was nothing but you’re typical ‘player’, he’s really awful and now I just can’t speak to him. I know telling him was an unbelievably stupid thing to do, but i’m terrified he tells someone, what can I do?
Ask him if he can keep that something just between you. That it was something that you didn’t want anyone to know, but at one point you had a lot of trust for him and that if he can just do that one thing for you. If other people know, what’s the worst thing that can happen. You can brush it off. And move on from it. If he tells, believe me, Karma is a bitch.
-JaneDoe
heey :) here goes my story. i like a guy, we become friends, i tell him i like him, he says he is in a ‘break’ and he doesn’t want to date girls from his school anymore. after that awkward conversation, i expect him to ignore me, he does the opposite. he talk to me every day at school, he talks to me online, he gives me songs with awkward lyrics and he puts the songs i give him on his ipod. i sound pathetic, but what should i do?
Hello:) You have to tell him that you can’t be lead on. Do you like me or not? Because I what you said and what you are doing to me is totally opposites. I need to know what’s going on, because I do still like you, and I don’t know if you are just doing this out of your own enjoyment or because maybe you are scared of a relationship.
-JaneDoe
