a few weeks ago my best male friend told me that he had fallen for me, because he has been alone for so long, and every relationship he has had has ended in disaster. and being that i am his only female friend in the same town that actually talks to him about everything, and listens to him always when hes down, he has started to like me more than a friend. i told him that i considered him as a brother, that he was a friend, and that i could never see him in the way he saw me, and that also i wasnt interested in a relationship, as i myself had just come out of a bad one. its been a few weeks since then, and over that time i had been talking to a friend from my school up here, and realised how much i actuallu adore him, as we have a lot in common and i love his company. so we began dating the other day. my best male friend found out today via wonderful facebook updates that im not dating the boy from my old school. im terrified that he’s now heartbroken and no longer wants to be friends. i was just wondering what i could say to him, if you have any suggestions. thankyou~ by Lolita

You really have to explain to him that you weren’t out there looking for a relationship but one just happened to land in your lap. You have to explain to him that he is one of your dearest friends and that losing him as a friend would be devastating. You really have to explain to him you don’t mean to hurt him, but it isn’t your fault your feelings for him aren’t the same, you can’t force yourself to like someone.
-JaneDoe

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