i think i love someone i barley know, could it be lust? it will never happen tho. hes 9 years older then i am, i met him threw his band and from what i know, his past girlfriends are the skinny pretty type. ive seen his band 12 times, and i spent a lot of time with him all of these days. ive talked to him a couple times viz myspace/facebook/aim/saynow. ill explain day by day and i want a strangers opinion. first time time i met him, even say him i thought he was one of the most attractive guys i have ever seen. not so much just his looks tho -even tho he is pretty cute ;)- but just everything about him. while his band was playing, his energy he put out the the crowd was amazing. he held my hand a couple times, we made eye contact while he sang. after the show i went up, introduced myself and took a picture wth him, bought a cd and shirt and left to talk to the band i was originally there to see. 2nd time. it was like…2 weeks later and me and a friend had driven 10 hours away to see them and the other band again. as soon as he got there he remembered me and remembered what city i was from. i was blown away cause this had never happened to me before. before the show we didnt talk so much but then when he played, he did the same thing again, made eye contact a lot and so on. afterwords i talked to him for a good half hour and also talked to the other members of the band. as they where packing up and stuff i was standing around and i was just watching him like fold all the tshirts and put them in the toat. i offered to help and he said he didnt need any but thanks anyways. then every so often we look at eachother at the same time and smile. me, my friend and the rest of the band stood around their van for awhile just talking and stuff and then they had to leave. this was early august of 08 3rd time. march of 09 i went to see his band play. i bought him cough drops because he had mentioned on twitter he was sick. i had been talking to the band on myspace a lot threw that time. they called to wish me happy birthday threw saynow and everything. Jacob -not really his name but itll do- even called separately to wish me a happy birthday. Jacob knew me by name now and the rest of the band did too kinda. so we hung out a lot that night because there was only like 10 people at the show and most of them where there for the other band. i dont really remember the order and what happened time after time after that but i know he snook me into an 18+ show and tried on a different occasion but the venue wouldnt let him. my friend who lives a couple states away went to one of their shows and she had him call me and she said that at first he couldnt hear me and when he finally could, his face lit right up. 8th time. warped tour- i spent 3/4 of the day with them. putting up posters or just helping with merch. it was really fun and we kept hugging a lot and he was very intimate with me on the stage, like always singing to me and pointing me out saying im awesome for helping them out and supporting them. 9. i went to this warped date by myself. i was 4 hours from home and he seemed really excited to see me there. i spent the whole day with them other then seeing the 3 or 4 bands i wanted to. that day he invited me to the bbq afterwords and we hung out on there bus and got into a deep discussion for about 3 hours. 10 warped tour again. this day i went with friends but they kinda did their own thing because i wented to help them so i walked around with the sign saying there set time and stage on it for an hour or so. kept him company when he did and so on. just like another warped date. he wanted me and my friends to come to the bbq that night and he told me hed come get me around 9. around 930 their tour manager texted me saying that theyre having an intense band meeting and its getting heated and hes sorry and theyll miss me til next time. 11. last warped tour date. i was still around them for most of the day. “jacob” was very huggy that day too and he was really interested in meeting my friends and stuff. we didnt even say bye on this date or anything. end of july 12. this was just 2 days ago. during this time i hadnt seen him or the rest of the band, my brother had committed suicide and they where sooo supportive. they sent me flowers and wanted me to update them on how i was doing and everything [at first they didnt know if it was suicide or murder] i didnt tell them i was coming to this show so when he seen me his face lit up and he came over and give me a big hug, asking me how i was doing with everything and pointed out that i was wearing my brothers dogtag [he was in the marines] and he was so happy to see me. the show was great he again he sang to me alot and in one of their songs a lyric is “i like it hott a dirty rather then cold and clean” and every single time since about the 3rd show ive been to, he makes eye contact with he during that part. but anyways, he also pointed out again that i was awesome for coming and stuff. they had about 40 people to see them there, its not a lot but it is when 6 months ago not even 10 where there. after the show i was teasing him about how hes famous now because theyve been on tour with huge bands recently and he said hell never wants to be ‘famous’ in my eyes and hell never be to famous to talk to me and that im his favorite and he really thinks of my as a friend not a fan and being huggy too. a while back i asked him if hed be interesting in drawing me a tattoo -hes a phenomenal artist- and he said hed love to and hed been busy so he hadnt had a chance but he said hes going to work on it and we got on the subject of the tattoo im getting dedicated to me brother and i told him the lyric and he said that he really liked it and wanted to get it done and he wants to get it done with me. so i was really happy and yeah. i just love being around him. when i am, i feel so safe, and like nothing else matters. whenever he signs something for me he draws hearts. a couple months ago i sent them a really sappy letter on myspace saying how much they mean to me and stuff and in the message he wrote back he mentioned that he thinks im smart,cute,funny,sweet and all these nice things and idk. do you think its just a fan girl crush? do you think is possible he has any feelings twords me? am i crazy? lol or is it just even lust?! im so confused :( <3dazedandconfused

I really can’t tell you. That’s a whole lot. You started out as one of their first big fans so he might just be looking at you like that. You really have to be upfront about it and maybe be jokingly about it “Haha, it seems like you like me more than a friend;)” Or something along those lines so it doesn’t get awkward. But if he kinda just blows it off I don’t know. I myself would just come out and maybe ask some of the other band member and ask him if he’s just really flirty. You have to speak up, because he’s sending signs but it might be because he is just really nice.
-JaneDoe

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