Hai, i’m a seventeen year old English girl and to be honest, my problem is I haven’t gotten close to anyone romantically in about three years. I just can’t do it, I think i’ve developed a complex. Everytime someone comes close I mess it up by being all nervous and speechless; I’ve tried everything I can think of to improve my possiblities, but now I’m simply playing the “If you aren’t looking for it, you’ll find love” game. I’m losing. I think one of the problems is is that I did love a boyfriend a while ago, but in the end he chose my best friend. I no have this jealousy of her that I never express but it’s always there seething away. She’s amazing with guys, she’s loud and confident which I am not. I just don’t see the point in trying if they’re always going to pick her, is that right? How can I fix this? She’s still my best friend after all, I don’t want to loose her, even if I do get an urge sometimes to shave her eyebrows off or glue impliments to her face whilst she sleeps so I have a better chance. Annoyingly long and generic question over ^_^.

I enjoyed this question a whole lot because you added some humor in here. But, the advice I can give you is that you have to find someone whom doesn’t know your best friend. Start talking to a boy that is out of that group of friends if you know what I mean. You deserve someone for your own just as she deserves someone. You can speak up to her about it even, tell her how you feel, that you feel like she always gets what you want. Tell her you need to her to back off for a little. You can’t force yourself to be happy, and you can’t make other people happy if you yourself aren’t. You really have to sit down with your parents and tell them that if they don’t understand where you are coming from you can keep cutting yourself. Go to the school help as well, get a therapist. GET HELP. It is out there, I promise someone is out there to help you. Dear whoever is reading this. Guess what? You are loved. No, don’t nod you head and say you’re not. You are. You are lovely and you are loved. End of story.
-JaneDoe

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